What Causes Retroactive Jealousy? A Little Known Fact

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by Jeff Billings in Retroactive Jealousy Blog
August 3, 2016
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(The following post on what causes retroactive jealousy is taken from part of a module from my course “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101”.)

What Causes Retroactive Jealousy?

When we get stressed about things like retroactive jealousy ocd, did you know a part of our brains becomes “enflamed”.

The part that becomes enflamed is an almond shaped set of neurons located in the temporal lobe.

This is known as the amygdala.

It’s where the emotion of fear is located and where defense responses are mobilized when it thinks we’re in danger.

It’s the part of the brain that jumps into gear whenever we see a man advancing toward us with a knife.

Or when we’re behind the wheel of a car that’s spun out of control.

Or when the ground gives way under our feet while hiking along the edge of a cliff.

Note how these are all “real” problems.

Events that could lead to our literal death.

Evolution has taught us that in situations like these we should fear for our lives and so that’s why the amygdala becomes enflamed.

The problem is, these same fear responses are also called upon during non-life threatening circumstances too.


The Amygdala And Retroactive Jealousy

The imaginary “threat” from an ex-lover would fall into this category of non-life threatening circumstances.

For example, when you’re trying to learn how to beat retroactive jealousy.

This entails being caught in a wormhole of over-thinking and so your amygdala also gets caught in a wormhole.

It releases a whole host of chemicals such as adrenaline and cortisol when it needn’t.

These increase heart rate, blood pressure and are literally damaging your brain without you even realizing it.

In other words, your brain is suffering by having to repeatedly activate its stress mechanisms.

Just by thinking certain thoughts, choosing to perceive them the way you do, and dwelling on them,

In fact, what you need to be doing is the complete opposite:

Replacing these stress responses with specially designed relaxation responses.

I will show you how to do this in Module Ten.


For more information on what causes retroactive jealousy you can check out these posts:

What Causes Retroactive Jealousy? Here’s The Answer

Why Does Retroactive Jealousy Occur?

To find out more about my course here’s the link: “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101

And here’s the link to my book: “The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure: How To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Partner’s Past in 12 Steps”.


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