Author: Henry (51) from the United States, married for 35 years with his wife (48).
Number of his sexual partners: 1
Number of her sexual partners: 5
How long have you suffered from retroactive jealousy?
Many years
How much time a day do you spend thinking about your partner’s past?
Depends. Something usually triggers it, then it’s endless hours.
How did you find out about your partner’s past?
Mutual people we know told me about her promiscuous past.
Tell us what exactly you’re jealous about in her past?
She’s been with multiple guys when she was very young. She denied it for years. When she happens to meet them unexpectedly she always laughs and acts like she really enjoys being around them. She says she hasn’t had any sexual contact with these guys, but I hear different stories from our mutual friends and the guys themselves told me about it.
What bugs you the most about your partner’s past?
Every time we bump into one of her ex-lovers, she is always all smiley and laughs with them and she started to behave like that with other random men, too. It makes me feel sick to see her being all engaged in conversation with other guys and pretending these guys are the funniest men on earth, although they clearly didn’t say anything remotely funny.
Have you ever snooped through your partner’s personal belongings off or online?
Yes
Have you met your partner’s ex-lover(s) and if so what happened?
I talked to one of them. He was very honest with me and described my wife as an “easy” girl who showed him her horny side, which made me feel sick.
If you could get one image out of your head regarding your partner’s past, what would it be?
I keep seeing her with her ex-lovers. Them being together. It’s like a bad movie that plays over and over again.
Is there anything else you’d like to share? Fire away!
I just want to get over this. We’ve been married for many years. We get along great until I see one of the guys or just if one of their names comes up somehow. I feel horrible when this is happening.
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