My Husband’s Promiscuous Past Is The Talk Of My Town

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by Jeff Billings in Retroactive Jealousy Stories
May 20, 2019
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Author: Jane (49) from Australia, married for 23 years with her husband (55).

Number of her sexual partners: 3

Number of his sexual partners: unknown

How long have you suffered from retroactive jealousy?

How much time a day do you spend thinking about your partner’s past?
All day on and off

How did you find out about your partner’s past?
We were acquainted when young through mutual friends and he was always known as the guy that had a different girlfriend every week but it was always laughed off. Years later when he asked me out, it didn’t worry me and he decided I was the one. 7 years ago at our kids school, the other mums in my circle said they knew him and he cheated on them and was very promiscuous.

Have you talked to your husband about your retroactive jealousy and if so what happens?
Yes and he gets angry at me and tells me to get over it and storms off. He has denied all the stories.

Tell us what exactly you’re jealous about in their past?
I wish I could pinpoint a reason but it seems my OCD brain just takes control. Probably sometimes I feel like I’m just another on his resume.

What bugs you the most about your partner’s past?
I’m not sure but he is an extrovert and everyone knows him and I am opposite with little social history. Everyone we know, he seems to have had history with ie been with sister, mother, friend. My brother’s partner was his biggest love before me and even my close friend’s sister is on his list.

Have you ever snooped through your husband’s personal belongings off or online?
Yes, but only a couple of months ago when I felt he was acting different. It seems he still loves to flirt with the young girls he meets on social media.

Is your husband still in contact with his ex-lover(s) or does he contact them?
Not that I am aware, but he stayed on friendly terms with them all and we live in a small town, so running into them is not unusual

Have you met your partner’s ex-lover(s) and if so what happened?
Yes and I am civil but dying inside.

If you could get one image out of your head regarding your partner’s past, what would it be?
Just him having sex with them.

Is there anything else you’d like to share? Fire away!
Unfortunately I feel like I’ve emotionally left our marriage to try and get rid of the constant pain. I’m not proud of myself and am ashamed as I’m told it’s none of my business what he did before me and logically they’re right.

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