In this post I’m going to show you how to deal with a girlfriend’s sexual past by entering a “flow state”. Otherwise known simply as “flow” or “the zone”.
For those of you who aren’t sure what I’m on about, here’s a quick definition:
What Is Flow?
Flow is a term coined by positive psychology, and simply means being fully mentally immersed in any activity that you enjoy.
When you’re in a flow state nothing else matters besides whatever activity it is you’re engaged in.
Your mind is completely engrossed with the activity, producing feelings of joy or even rapture.
The types of activities generally associated with flow are:
- Playing a musical instrument
- Playing a sport
- Gaming
- Some Eastern religious practices, such as Buddhism
- Some work environments such as software engineering
To be fully focused on any of these activities can induce a person to enter “the zone” in which you’re not even aware of yourself or your own emotions.
How To Deal With A Girlfriend’s Sexual Past By Getting In The Zone
I recommend getting into a flow state as often as you can when learning how to deal with a girlfriend’s sexual past.
When you’re in the zone — playing football, blasting through a solo on your guitar, or defeating ninjas on your PlayStation — you’re not suffering from retroactive jealousy ocd.
In these moments it’s impossible to be jealous of your wife or girlfriend’s sexual history.
This is because retroactive jealousy starts with thought. And this thought leads to a negative emotion.
Whether that’s about those sex-buddies she once had, all those one-night-stands, or threesomes.
But when you’re in a flow state, you’re not emotionally affected by any of this.
Your mind is too busy to think of about your girlfriend’s sexual past in the first place.
All it’s focused on is the here and now, which is where you should always strive to be.
Increase Your Time Spent In A Flow State
If you want to use flow to learn how to deal with a girlfriend’s sexual past, you need to increase the amount of time you spend in the zone.
Set aside half an hour or an hour each day dedicated to getting in the zone.
And watch how your anxiety about the past disappears when your in a flow state.
If you don’t have any activities that induce flow, find something.
Even if it’s just chatting to your best friend on the phone, being with your girlfriend, watching a great movie, do whatever it takes to get you “in the moment”.
If you really want to learn how to deal with a girlfriend’s sexual past, though, try to activate moments of flow as much as possible.
Especially whenever you feel yourself slipping into a wormhole of retroactive jealousy ocd over-thinking.
Rather than go down that wormhole, force yourself to stop and do something you enjoy instead.
Get into that flow state.
Live life in the moment.
Forget yourself.
And you will soon learn how to deal with a girlfriend’s sexual past.
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What activities do you do that get you in the zone? Have you ever used flow when struggling with how to deal with a girlfriend’s sexual past? Let me know in the comments section below.
And be sure to check out my course “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101” for the ultimate retroactive jealousy treatment that will teach you how to stop retroactive jealousy for good.
