Got A Jealous Husband Or Boyfriend? Here’s 3 Things You Should Do

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by Jeff Billings in Retroactive Jealousy Blog
October 19, 2016

Being in a relationship with a jealous husband or boyfriend can be a confusing and tiring experience. Sometimes a guy’s jealousy over your sexual past, or who you were in a relationship with can get so bad you may feel like ending the relationship.

In most cases, though, this would be a mistake. A man who suffers from retroactive jealousy OCD today will most likely not suffer from it in a week, month or years’ time — depending on how committed he is to beating it.

So don’t give up on him! Here are three things you can do right now to help your jealous husband or boyfriend overcome retroactive jealousy.

1. Stop talking about your past

As tempting as it may be to give in to his demands to tell him all about your romantic or sexual past, you should resist this at all costs.

Feeding a jealous husband or jealous boyfriend more information about the very thing he’s jealous about, will only lead to more jealousy. And more heartache for you.

And, of course, it goes without saying to stop talking about your past if he hasn’t asked you about it in the first place.

No man wants to hear about the great sex you once had in the back of a car, or how your ex was a millionaire, so bite that lip and leave your past in the past.

2. Try not to get angry

Getting angry when he asks you questions or makes a sarcastic remark about your past, is not the way to go either.

Again, difficult as it may be, you should try to remain as calm as possible and try to see things from his perspective.

Sure, it may seem completely wacky and irrational that your jealous husband or boyfriend is still upset over some dude you can hardly remember who you slept with five years ago, but to him it’s no laughing matter.

Try to take his pain seriously and show as much compassion as you can.

This may be difficult when he seems to want to make you feel guilty for things you’ve done before you even knew him, but your life will be that much smoother for it.

3. Get him some help

I’m not talking about therapy here, as I don’t believe it does much good when it comes to retroactive jealousy. (You can check out a post I’ve written on the subject here: Should You Pay For Retroactive Jealousy Therapy?)

Rather, get him some help for retroactive jealousy from someone who’s actually lived through and overcome it themselves. Someone like me 🙂

Here’s the thing: retroactive jealousy in men does not tend to go away by itself. It goes on and on, sometimes for years on end, unless he takes action to get over it.

The problem is often, though, that a jealous husband or boyfriend doesn’t know what action this should be. That’s where I can help, however, as I have developed a number of products to teach men how to overcome retroactive jealousy.

Course: Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101

 The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure: How To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Partner’s Past in 12 Steps:



Do you have a jealous husband or jealous boyfriend? Is he jealous about your sexual past or your past relationships? Do you have any other tips to help him get over it? Let me know in the comments section below.


  1. Aimee says:

    Thank you thank you thank you, Jeff. I think you may have just saved my relationship.

  2. Kelly says:

    My boyfriend is still hung up on a guy I had a casual fling with before we got together. I tell him how my past doesn’t mean ANYTHING to me now but it doesn’t make any difference. I am now going to direct him to your site Jeff as you obviously know what you’re talking about. If you can’t help him no one can.

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