Author: Dexter (34), male, USA, talks about his retroactive jealousy experiences with his girlfriend (40).
Number of his sexual partners:
20
Number of his girlfriend’s sexual partners:
40
How long have you suffered from retroactive jealousy?
At the beginning of are relationship I found out things. It hasn’t come up in almost 4 years and the other day we were talking and more details came up and it through me back into that same state of mind I was years ago.
How much time a day do you spend thinking about your partner’s past?
Since new details came up prob 4-6 hours a day.
How did you find out about your partner’s past?
In the beginning of are relationship we could talk about our pasts…her idea.
Have you talked to them about your retroactive jealousy and if so what happens?
She told me that she felt I should be over this by now and that she felt slut shamed.
Tell us what exactly you’re jealous about in their past?
I feel jealous because I receive very lazy sex from her. And having her tell me about her past and what her friends use to do on a regular basis truly hurts. Even more so that she is very lazy in bed and I feel that she does it on purpose to just get me to hurry up so she can go back to watching Bravo.
What bugs you the most about your partner’s past?
That she went from a normal 19 year old with a couple of partners into a full blown party girl that had friends that were into finding pro athletes after their games at the hotel bar or clubs. They made it a point to find out where and when these guys were after games then her and her friend would actively try and f*** random Pros they have never talked to.
Also to stay safe her and her friend would only hook up with these men if all of them were in the same room…” to stay safe”. That is the real kicker for me! Not just that she had sex with random pros but that it was almost a group thing. She swears that they weren’t past around or shared partners but I have extreme doubt. She has admitted to having sex with randoms right next to her friend or sometimes friends, and always heavily intoxicated which makes me think almost anything goes when u have little to no inhibitions.
She told me this kind of thing happen when she was between 23-26 only…, which I don’t fully believe because she was friends with these people for a decade. She said she honestly doesn’t know the exact number which I also find to be hard to believe but says she knows it’s more then 30 but not as many as 50 men.
Have you ever snooped through your partner’s personal belongings off or online?
Yes, I google her name along with her friends names to see if any pics or vids would pop up.
Is your partner still in contact with their ex-lover(s) or does your partner contact them?
No.
Have you met your partner’s ex-lover(s) and if so what happened?
No.
If you could get one image out of your head regarding your partner’s past, what would it be?
Her sucking and f***ing 30-40 random athletes dicks and f***ing a new guy every month with her friend(s) laying next to her as their getting blowed. And cheering her on. She has admitted to doing this for years.
Is there anything else you’d like to share? Fire away!
How shitty and lazy she is in bed now and doesn’t care to do anything ever. It’s like she f***ed and sucked so many men in her past that now she’s just over it and views intimacy as a chore. I’ve had prob 5 one night stands spread out over 10 years. She had 30-40 in a 3 year period and told me that it is REALLY normal for a single women in her 20’s…I just laughed.
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