What causes retroactive jealousy?
Do you ask yourself: Why do I have irrational jealous thoughts about my boy or girlfriend’s sexual past. And why is overcoming these retroactive jealousy symptoms just so DAMN HARD?
The answer to theses questions about how the cause of jealousy and how to overcome retroactive jealousy can be found by tracing the evolutionary history of humankind back to its very beginning.
Retroactive jealousy symptoms are in our DNA
If we do this, we find that the answer to “What causes retroactive jealousy“? about our boy or girlfriend’s sexual past is because it’s been hardwired into us since the day we were born to do so.
Without delving too much into evolutionary science, both men and women seem to be programed to be naturally wary of the opposite sex when it comes to our partners and the risk of them being unfaithful.
In other words, even cave men and women probably had to wonder what causes jealousy in a relationship.
As a broad generalization, women tend to be more worried about emotional infidelity, and men more about sexual infidelity.
How to overcome retroactive jealousy is a different question for men and women
For men, evolutionary programing means they don’t really care as much about ex-boyfriends / husbands as they do about former casual lovers.
Despite the fact the sex a woman had with her ex-boyfriend was probably much better and more frequent than when she was single – it is perceived as less threatening because it was in a monogamous relationship.
This represents in a man’s mind the notion that their partner is less likely to be unfaithful and is one of the main causes of jealousy.
Multiple, casual, sexual encounters on the other hand, symbolically represent a higher risk of a woman being promiscuous and therefore possibly unfaithful.
In evolutionary terms, this raises the fear that he could end up raising a child which is not his own; and herein lies one of the major root causes of retroactive jealousy ocd in men.
Women, on the other hand, tend to be more worried about emotional infidelity because, back in the dawn of time, they had to place more emphasis on making sure a man stuck around to help them raise their child.
Consequently women are now far more likely, in terms of retrospective jealousy, to have anxiety over who their man dated, loved and had an emotional connection with in the past.
This is because if he still possibly harbors feelings for someone else, he may leave to be with that other woman, leaving her to raise a child alone.
Learning what causes jealousy in a relationship (for both men and women)
Of course, evolution is just part of the puzzle as to why you’re suffering from irrational jealous thoughts about your boy or girlfriend’s sexual past and is a primary cause of jealousy.
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For not, though, hopefully this has answered part of the question as to “What causes my retroactive jealousy disorder“? It’s not entirely your fault. It’s evolution!
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