Obsessive Boyfriend? How To Man Up And Save Your Relationship

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by Jeff Billings in Retroactive Jealousy Blog
August 22, 2016

Are you an obsessive boyfriend who’s constantly hung up over your girlfriend’s past?

Do you worry about:

  • who she once dated?
  • who she had sex with?
  • what type of sex she had?

Do you do any or all of the following:

  • go through her personal things (email, Facebook, photos, etc.)?
  • quiz her about her past?
  • make angry/sarcastic comments about her past?
  • spend hours online trying to find a retroactive jealousy cure?

If so, your retroactive jealousy — obsession with a girlfriend’s past — may be damaging your relationship.

How Women Deal With An Obsessive Boyfriend

There are two types of women when it comes to dating an obsessive boyfriend.

  • accommodating
  • non-accommodating

Accommodating women answer all questions thrown at them.

They don’t generally get angry about being constantly quizzed.

They may not be particularly self-confident and have little sense of self-worth.

And they overlook being made to feel like they’ve done something wrong in the past.

Non-accommodating women can often appear to be accommodating at first.

But the more their obsessive boyfriend continues with his retroactive jealousy ocd, the more likely they are to leave.

They have a stronger sense of their sexuality and who they are as a person.

They resent being made to feel bad for having experienced things before they even met their boyfriend.

Calling them a “slut” is likely to be the final straw before they bail on the relationship.

How To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Girlfriend’s Past

Thousands of relationships break down every year due to an obsessive boyfriend not kicking his retroactive jealousy disorder.

In order to stop this happening to you the first thing you need to do is decide if you want to be in the relationship.

Many guys find they can’t handle the thought of their girlfriend having slept with 20, 40 or 60 guys.

They decide that they don’t want to be with a girl with “loose morals”, and leave.

But if everything’s great apart from your girlfriend’s sexual history, then is it really worth leaving her over?

An alternative and more mature approach is to beat retrospective jealousy.

Otherwise it could just reappear in the next relationship. And you’d be back to square one.

Learning how to get over sexual jealousy is a fairly straightforward process.

But it does take work and commitment on your part.

It requires:

  • understanding what retroactive jealousy is
  • working out what exactly you’re jealous of
  • why you’re jealous of your girlfriend’s past
  • working on your self-confidence
  • calming automatic fear responses in the brain
  • cutting out certain behaviors
  • replacing negative thought patterns with positive ones
  • cultivating positive everyday habits
  • and possibly more

Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101

My course shows you how to do all of the above.


You can download the modules and work at your own pace.

And I’ll be there to help you through it via email or Skype.

This is by far the best way to learn how to overcome retroactive jealousy before it affects your relationship.

But I also have a book The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure: How To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Partner’s Past in 12 Steps that’s a best-seller.


Stop being that annoying obsessive boyfriend.

And prevent your girlfriend from leaving before it’s too late.

The last thing you want is to look back on your relationship after it’s gone and wish you’d done something to stop retroactive jealousy.

But by then it’ll be too late.

So take action, sign up today, and let’s cure your retroactive jealousy together. For good.



  1. Jack says:

    I needed to hear this. Thank you Jeff.

  2. Nina says:

    How do I stopp going through his phone and Facebook page?

  3. Milos says:

    I’m just happy that i stumbled in your web page. Want to make my jealous go away its driving me mad.

  4. Louise says:

    Thank you for this information. I’m forwarding this site to my boyfriend so he can hopefully start to feel better about my past.

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