How To Overcome Retroactive Jealousy By Unlocking Your True Potential

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by Jeff Billings in Retroactive Jealousy Blog
July 24, 2016
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Pretty bold statement for a post about how to overcome retroactive jealousy, right? But here’s the thing:

Learning how to overcome retroactive jealousy is not just about learning how to stop thinking about your husband’s ex-wife, or how to get over your girlfriend’s past sex life.

It’s about unlocking your true potential.

It’s about releasing your “true self” — who you really are as a person.

And with that comes an ability to take on the world.

To do whatever you want in life, because only those who are fully tuned into who they are and what they want are able to go out and get it.

This may sound far-fetched to you — the notion that your retroactive jealousy has anything to do with holding you back as person and in life.

But it does.

Want to know why?

Let me tell you a quick story…

How To Overcome Retroactive Jealousy — My Story

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Back in 2013, I was struggling.

I was mired in the grip of retroactive jealousy and couldn’t see a way out.

It had all started several months before when my new girlfriend, Emma, and I were woken up by a phone call at 2 a.m. from a male “friend” of hers.

I don’t think I have to go into details as to what he wanted.

This was the trigger to my retroactive jealousy.

I became more and more obsessed with finding out all about this guy and the others who came out the woodwork.

And of course the more I found out, the worse my jealousy became.

Soon it had developed into a case of full blown retroactive jealousy OCD, in which pictures of Emma being with this guy were in my head 24/7.

We argued about it. I felt like crap. Ashamed. But helpless.

How did I overcome this?

I did it through sheer hard work.

I decided enough was enough — “I’m going to beat this”.

And from that moment on I dedicated myself to learning how to overcome retroactive jealousy.

I spent a good three months reading, watching, listening and learning.

Rather than watching a movie at the end of the day I’d watch a documentary on the brain.

Instead of reading a novel by George Orwell, I’d read a book on free will.

Rather than listen to a podcast on movies, I’d listen to one on sexual jealousy.

After a month or so, I already felt a hell of a lot better than I did at the start of the month.

My retroactive jealousy was far from gone, but there were green shoots in the mud.

Soon after that I had my jealousy fully under control.

I was no longer causing arguments with Emma, or getting up to any of the other destructive behaviors associated with retrograde jealousy.

And after three months I was left with images still occasionally popping into my mind, but I no longer reacted to them in the way I had before.

My retroactive jealousy was a glimmer of what it had been three months previously, but there was still better things to come…

How I Unlocked My True Potential

Do you wake up feeling slightly depressed?

Does the weight of the world seems to come crashing down on your shoulders once you reorientate yourself again to reality?

I used to feel this way every morning when I suffered from retroactive jealousy. And before if I’m honest.

It’s amazing how many years you can spend in a kind of fog. Stumbling through life without any real direction or sense of happiness.

But once I’d learnt how to cure retroactive jealousy, it didn’t just stop jealous thoughts about my girlfriend’s sexual history, it cured me of a more general, overarching negativity.

how to overcome retroactive jealousyFrom all the research I put in over those three months, I learnt not only a great deal about the human mind, relationships, sex, jealousy and so on.

I learnt even more about myself.

Overcoming retroactive jealousy was a kind of watershed moment in my life.

There was a pre-jealous me, and a post-jealous me.

And the post-jealous me was a hell of a lot more true to who I really was as a person.

Through beating retroactive jealousy, I unlocked my true potential.

Now, I better understand how my mind works and how to overcome retroactive jealousy whenever it gets too anxious.

I understand other people and can more easily see things from their point of view.

I know what I want out of life and how to get it.

Here’s the thing:

To suffer from retroactive jealousy means you’re not fully living as “you”.

Your true self is not really jealous at all.

It’s your egoic, judgmental, fearful primal version of yourself that’s jealous.

But in getting over retroactive jealousy your true self will come through and make your life so much easier and happier all round.

How I Help Change The World

What was the result of my realizing more of who I really am and unlocking my true potential?

My site

After figuring out how to overcome retroactive jealousy on my own, I realized things shouldn’t stop there.

All the masses of information I’d found out could be put to good use in helping others beat retroactive jealousy too.

So I decided to put all I know about how to overcome retroactive jealousy down into a book.

It took a few months to write, and once it was done I bought a domain name, set up a website and within a few days had sold the first copy “The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure: How To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Partner’s Past in 12 Steps”.

The book has gone on to sell hundreds and hundreds of copies, as has the more in-depth course I’ve developed called “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101”.


My mission now is to help others get over retroactive jealousy using the methods I developed in getting over it myself.

I now get emails every week from former sufferers telling me how I saved their relationship.

I hear constantly from people telling me how I saved their sanity.

I receive letters telling me how I changed someone’s life.

So, in a small way at least, I’m changing the world.

Something I never would have dreamed of being able to do just a few short years ago.

But I’m not just saying this to show off. I’m not saying I’m something special.

I’m saying if I can overcome retroactive jealousy, unlock my true potential and change the world, then YOU can too.

How You Can Do This Too!

I’m guessing you’d love to learn how to beat retroactive jealousy and take back control of your mind?

You can.

I bet you’d love to unlock your true potential and be that much more happier and at peace?

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I gather you’d love to change the world in some way, no matter how small, by helping others?

You can.

I’m not joking when I say that my retroactive jealousy was just about as bad as it could be. It wasn’t pretty. And yet I was able to overcome it.

Before my retrospective jealousy ordeal I had zero knowledge of how the mind works, psychology, thoughts and emotions.

And I had no special qualifications, talents or gifts for helping others.

But I’ve gained all the above through just a bit of dedication and hard work.

Because that’s the rub — doing all of these things take work. But this means it’s attainable by all.

It’s not a question of talent or temperament, it’s a question of application.

Which is great because it means…

You Can Do It Too

I did it, you can do it.

I fully believe that and if you want to talk about how I can help you get started, hit me up at jeff[at]retroactivejealousycrusher[dot]com.

Alternatively, check out my aforementioned products, “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101” and “The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure: How To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Partner’s Past in 12 Steps”.


Let me help you learn how to overcome retroactive jealousy, unlock your true potential and change the world, starting today.



  1. Clive says:

    Wow, this is inspiring Jeff. Thanks for writing this. Can I ask how long it took you to get over your gf past??

  2. Viv says:

    My bf is still in contact with his ex even though I’ve asked him to break all contact with her. I really hate her tbh, and don’t know what to do anymore as it’s driving us apart.

  3. Conor says:

    Thanks this is quite inspiring.

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