How To Get Over A Girlfriend’s Sexual Past

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by Jeff Billings in Retroactive Jealousy Blog
August 13, 2016
how to get over a girlfriend's sexual past

If you’re wondering how to get over a girlfriend’s sexual past, I have good news and bad news. The good news is that it’s not as hard as you think to beat retroactive jealousy. The bad news is that it takes a great deal of effort to do so.

But like I say, it’s not impossible.

In this post I want to take a look at both of these aspects:

  • The fact that it’s not impossible to learn how to get over a girlfriend’s sexual past.
  • And the effort involved.

This is so you can assess just what you’re up against.

And be better prepared in your fight against retroactive jealousy ocd.

How To Get Over A Girlfriend’s Sexual Past — The Good News

Like I said, getting over your girlfriend’s sexual history is not as hard as you may think.

Right now it may feel like you’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of negativity.

You’re plagued by repetitive thoughts and emotions about who your girlfriend once dated or the sex she had.

Maybe your girlfriend’s past is the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thing before you go to sleep.

But it’s important to realize that these negative thoughts and emotions are just that — thoughts and emotions.

They’re not permanent fixtures within you forever more.

Thoughts are generated by the brain and pop in and out.

They can’t physically harm you.

And neither can emotions.

They’re just sensations felt in the body.

And like thoughts, they come and go randomly.

Realizing the impermanence of both thoughts and emotions is key to learning how to get over a girlfriend’s sexual past.

How To Get Over A Girlfriend’s Sexual Past — The Bad News

Maybe “bad” is too strong a word.

The truth is, by bad I just mean “hard work”.

While retrograde jealousy is not as ingrained within you as you may think, it still requires a great deal of effort to cure it.

It’s virtually impossible, for example, to learn how to get over a girlfriend’s sexual past simply by thinking about it.

You can’t get over retroactive jealousy simply by realizing how irrational or silly it is.

If this were the case you’d have stopped suffering from retrograde jealousy as soon as you heard someone say:

  • “The past is the past”
  • “Just get over it”
  • “Her past experiences have made her the woman she is today”

Unfortunately life’s not that easy.

What Work Does Learning How To Get Over A Girlfriend’s Past Entail?

Granted, thinking about things in a rational way can certainly help.

But you need to be organized about it.

There are certain thoughts and beliefs that you need to ingrain in your mind, replacing the negative thoughts and beliefs you currently hold about your girlfriend’s sexual past.

I go into detail about what these are in my book and course “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101”.


As well as replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts there are also a number of practical and physical things you need to do.

Again, these are all laid out in my book and course.

Through a combination of these mind based and practical based exercises it’s possible to cure retroactive jealousy relatively quickly.

But it does require effort.

Daily effort, not just doing a bit here and then when the mood strikes.

Sign up for one-on-one personal retroactive jealousy coaching or take my course to find out more and learn how to beat retroactive jealousy for good.



Are you struggling to learn how to get over a girlfriend’s sexual past? How long have you been stuck, thinking the same thoughts? And being wracked by anxiety over who’s in her “friends list” on Facebook? Let me know in the comments section below.

There is another way to live. And it needn’t involve obsessing over who your wife or girlfriend once went to bed with.


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