When I used to be jealous of a girlfriend’s past, I would spend hours Googling “how overcome retroactive jealousy” “how stop being jealous of girlfriends past” “retroactive jealousy ocd” etc. This post may include affiliate links.
While I don’t recommend online research marathons like these as way of trying to beat retroactive jealousy, I did manage to unearth some great videos along the way.
Here are just some of the videos that helped me in my quest to stop being jealous of a girlfriend’s past.
I hope you gain some insight from them too.
Sexual Jealousy — Chris Ryan
Who’s It By? Chris Ryan is co-author of the book Sex At Dawn, which looks at the history of human mating.
In this video he discusses how being jealous of a girlfriend’s past isn’t a trait shared by all cultures around the world.
Best Quote: “We also talk about the Sting song — every breath you take I’ll be watching you, every move you make — that’s a stalker! That’s not a lover. That’s not somebody who respects and loves you that’s a f***ing criminal.”
I’m A Slut! — Jaclyn Glenn
Who’s It By? This is part three of a three part series on women and slut shaming by YouTube Vlogger Jaclyn Glenn.
Best Quote: “I would just define slut as a term used to bring women down, a term used to shame women for being sexually active.”
How Do We Break The Habit Of Excessive Thinking? — Eckhart Tolle
Who’s It By? Here’s a great clip from an audience Q&A with legendary spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle, author of the book A New Earth.
Best Quote: “A lot of the over-activity of the mind is an attempt to get away from the simplicity of the present moment.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zGMJ8NMQ2Wc
Your Girlfriend Is A Raging Slut! How Does That Make You Feel? — Owen Cook
Who’s It By? Owen Cook may not win many win many friends from the feminist community as he’s a professional pick-up artist, but what he has to say about guys who are jealous of a girlfriend’s past is spot on.
Best Quote: “Your girlfriend has actually declined more sex than you ever will in your entire life!”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wxWuREjuLAE
The Illusion Of Memory — Alan Watts
Who’s It By? The late Alan Watts talked more sense on the nature of the ego, memory, and living in the present moment than practically anyone else ever has. This video’s a nice little primer to his philosophies.
Best Quote: “It involves, in other words, your getting rid of the habit of thought whereby you define yourself as the result of what has gone before, and instead get into the more plausible and more reasonable habit of thought in which you don’t define yourself in terms of what you’ve done before but in terms of what you’re doing now.”
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Jealous Of A Girlfriend’s Past? Here’s How I Can Help
If you’d like help to stop being jealous of a girlfriend’s past, make sure you check out my course “Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy 101”.
And I also have a book “The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure: How To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Partner’s Past in 12 Steps“.
As well as privately coach sufferers of retroactive jealousy ocd.
If you’d like help but are unsure which service might be best suited to you, feel free to drop me a line.
Onward!
Jeff
I’ve been suffering from RJ for about 6 weeks now and it’s getting worse. I’m thinking of purchasing one of your products Jeff. Need this to end ASAP if you can help.
why is there so much emphasis on the men? Jealousy goes both ways.
More men suffer from retroactive jealousy, though, than women.