Find Answers To Your Questions On Dealing With Retroactive Jealousy
Q1: Just What Is Retroactive Jealousy Exactly?
Retroactive jealousy is usually characterized by OCD like repetitive thoughts about your partner’s sexual history and ex-lovers. In fact, it is often referred to as "retroactive jealousy ocd."
In short, it is your mind’s way of dealing with the anxiety caused by a perceived threat to your relationship from another man or woman.
I go into much more detail in my book on what causes retroactive jealousy ocd, and you can also read this post — What Is Retroactive Jealousy Anyway? for a more detailed answer.
Q2: How Long Will It Take Me To Learn How To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship After Reading Your Book?
In general, your irrational jealous feelings about your partner's past should begin to dissipate almost immediately. And it should not be very long at all until overcoming retroactive jealousy completely is well within your grasp.
How long you end up dealing with jealousy in a relationship varies from person to person according to how bad their condition was in the first place, and how much work they’re willing to put in to beating retroactive jealousy.
I’d say the average time people have told me it's taken them in dealing with retroactive jealousy is about three weeks.
Q3: Why Should I Trust You? Have You Had Any Medical Or Psychiatric Training?
No. I want to make it perfectly clear that I have absolutely no medical qualifications or psychiatric skills in how to deal with jealousy in a relationship.
What I DO have is direct experience of overcoming retroactive jealousy -- the exact condition you have -- which is more than any doctor or psychiatrist can say.
I have proven that how to deal with retroactive jealousy is to rewire your mind to view your partner’s past in a different light, plus other methods, and that’s what the book shows you how to do.
Q4: Do I Really Need To Buy Your Book To Get Over Retroactive Jealousy? Won't It Just Go Away By Itself Over Time?
You can certainly try but it’s one hundred times harder to learn how to deal with retroactive jealousy on your own. Trust me, I’ve been there, and it’s not much fun spending months upon months trying to work out what’s going on in your own head. Retrospective jealousy feeds off the continual quest to try and work out what it is and make it go away and so to try and "go it alone" is just playing into your mind’s hands. A much quicker method is to buy the book, learn how to overcome retroactive jealousy and just be done with these jealous thoughts about your partner’s past ASAP, before they do any more damage to your relationship.
Q5: How Long Were You Dealing With Retroactive Jealousy Before You Found The Cure?
The severity fluctuated, but I'd say in total about a year. It really varies from person to person, with some people suffering from retrograde jealousy for a few weeks and others for a decade. If you’re lucky, you can nip it in the bud before it really takes hold of your mind and you end up spending years dwelling on your boy or girlfriend’s sexual history. But the important thing to remember is that, whether you’ve suffered from retroactive jealousy ocd for a short or a long time, it can be defeated. And it WILL. Sooner rather than later.
Q6: What If I Never Learn How To Overcome Retroactive Jealousy?
If, in the unlikely event, you feel you’re not making much progress, I will happily refund your money — no questions asked. BUT I can also say that in the two years I've had this website not a single customer has asked for a refund. I would suggest though sending me an email first as the book comes with free email consulting and so you may as well make the most of it! But, if in the extremely unlikely event neither the book nor I can help you in dealing with retroactive jealousy, then I will, of course, refund your money.
My book "How To Stop Being Jealous Of Your Partner's Past In 12 Steps" has helped people from all over the world get over retroactive jealousy.
The most advanced retroactive jealousy cure on the market, this course will show you step-by-step how to overcome retroactive jealousy for good.